Shake It Off: Learning to Live a Life Less Controlled by Others

Picture by nosound-withoutsilence, via tumblr

Picture by nosound-withoutsilence, via tumblr

Taylor Swift and I are about the same age and, as a result, I’ve watched her and her music change as I grew up too. So maybe it’s not odd that I can look at her music and see myself in it so clearly.

Some of her early songs about haters, like Mean, were mostly about reacting to the hate and using it to motivate you. The song is really down on the singer just as much as the ‘mean’ person is.

“You have pointed out my flaws again/As if I don’t already see them/I walk with my head down/Trying to block you out ’cause I’ll never impress you.”

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Don’t Call Attention to Your Success, It’s Too Intimidating

(Another entry from DSP that’s now been removed, enjoy!)

The stupidest thing I've ever seen in a gym...and I used to work out at the Y.

The stupidest thing I’ve ever seen in a gym…and I used to work out at the Y.

Last week I listened to the radio on the way home from work and the show hosts were discussing the book that the movie Divergent is based on. The book came out in 2011 and 3 years later it has a movie coming out. As a writer of fiction I was mildly jealous and then I swept that feeling aside and said ‘dammit I’m going to finish my current novel, publish it, and get MY OWN movie deal!’

Divergent‘s success didn’t intimidate me, it inspired me to be just as successful, if not more.

Unfortunately not everyone shares that particular character trait apparently, since an entire chain of gym’s has sprung up to cater to those that can’t deal with the “intimidation” of people more fit or more motivated than them in their gym.

Which is, quite frankly, the most pathetic gym I can even imagine.

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Some Businesses Have Dress Codes and This Is Discriminatory

While I’m not the biggest fan of the language used in the Arizona SB-1062 bill that was passed in our state legislature (for one thing, why should only religious people get protection?) but the fact is that discrimination in clientele is nothing new (or wrong) for businesses.

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The Anti-Common Core Crowd Want to Take You on a Guilt Trip

Screenshot 2014-02-13 at 2.30.52 PMNo thanks, please unpack my bags and refund my ticket, I have no interest in going down that path with you.

Maybe it’s because my plaintive cries of “You are ruining my life” failed to appropriately guilt trip my parents when I was a kid and therefore I became a sociopath that stopped caring about the emotions of others.

Or maybe it’s just because blaming Common Core for a child being frustrated with a couple of math problems is so insane that it barely takes scrutiny to dismiss.

Sure, I feel terrible for the girl in the picture. I have an abundance of empathy because I was a high achieving child in my K-12 years (let’s just not discuss that college thing ‘kay?), this was long before Common Core by the way, and I remember having some very vocal and tearful breakdowns at the kitchen table over my homework, whether I was in public school, private, or home school at the time. Math was always an especially difficult subject for me (still is, I never really had a good math teacher) and I got frustrated easily. I could solve every problem but one and that one would give me a breakdown.

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It’s Always Okay For Someone to Not Like You – A Rant

I find myself at odds, once again, with another gay Republican. I wrote an article a few months ago on why I don’t make politics personal and what triggered it was an article written by Jimmy LaSalvia, recently of GOProud.

Now I find myself writing a response to something he’s said once again…and steadily getting annoyed at myself that I feel the need to continue doing so.

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“Living on minimum wage isn’t easy”…uh, no shit.

It’s so very nice to be able to just rant on this blog.

It’s very freeing.

Anyway, I saw a post tonight from someone I used to be friends with. They were talking about how they made $3 above minimum wage in their state and they still couldn’t live on that, so clearly minimum wage needs to be increased because living on minimum wage is not easy to do…or even possible according to her.

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2013 Was An Extremely Stressful Year (Maybe this year will be better than the last)

and I’m not just referring to politics here.

Though that was stressful too. I went through nearly a year (from November of last year to November of this year) where I was completely and totally unmotivated.

As Bilbo said, I felt ‘like butter scraped over too much bread.’

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Progressive Ideology and Saddam Hussein’s Iraq

Sometimes you have an encounter that really reminds you of why the cradle to grave mentality of progressive politics can be so sickening.

I meet a lot of people in my day job and, because of the city I live in, many of them are from very different backgrounds and cultures. One in particular struck me the other day. It was a family where the father and mother had grown up in Iraq. They had moved here in the 90s, having grown up exclusively under the rule of Saddam Hussein.

The father had nothing but good things to say about Iraq. He had been given no choice on what he studied in school, no choice in how he received healthcare, and no freedom in almost any aspect of his life…but the government took care of him….and jailed anyone that didn’t follow the rules to the letter.

His healthcare was free and so was his education.

Good thing he wasn’t a Kurd I guess.

Sometimes it’s impossible to differentiate between the ideals that progressives strive for and the actions of a government ruled by a tyrannical (and ethnic cleansing) ruler like Saddam Hussein.

There is something truly wrong with that.

The scariest part is that people like this man, who were raised this way, see nothing wrong with it.

They are completely and utterly brainwashed into believing that having no freedom is fine, as long as you have the government giving you everything you “need”.

How many children of today’s progressives will have no wish to change anything because “freedom is overrated”?

How many will fail to realize that life isn’t worth living at all if you have no freedom?

How is it that we have reached the point where we are deciding that emulating Hussein’s Iraq and the failing country’s of Europe was a good idea?

Honestly it baffles me.


Advocating Censorship: No, Jennifer Lawrence Was Not Being Hyperbolic

It’s a good thing she’s cute as a button, otherwise this would have killed all her redeeming qualities in one shot.

“The word ‘fat’ I think should be illegal,” the Oscar winner told Walters. “If we’re regulating cigarettes and sex and cuss words, because of the effect they have on our younger generation, why aren’t we regulating things like calling people fat?”

- The Daily Caller (Jennifer Lawrence ABC News Interview)

My sister loves Jennifer Lawrence (I can’t blame her, she’s adorable), but she’s also a very intelligent 16 year old with relatively conservative ideals. She knows Obamacare is stupid, she supported Romney in 2012, and she’s well aware that regulation (of business or speech) is a really stupid idea.

When I told her what Jennifer Lawrence said though, she claimed that she had just been “making a joke” and pointed out that I say things like that all the time.

I do actually. I told my dad, just the other day, that his puns were so bad that they should be illegal.

That was a joke.

What Jennifer Lawrence said was not.

Watch the video for yourself.

This is how a huge percentage of my sister’s generation (a generation that idolizes this actress) thinks. “If it hurts someone’s feelings, it should be illegal.” You can find posts saying almost that exact thing all over the internet, posted by whiny adolescents (and people in my age bracket as well) who think that what is right or legal should revolve around what THEY think is acceptable in society.

I have news for you Jennifer Lawrence, you aren’t tolerant if you’re only “tolerant” about things you agree with. You have to be tolerant of people you think are assholes too, because you can’t legislate tolerance, human nature does not work that way.

Calling people fat is not the problem.

The problem is that we have raised a generation that is so dependent on what other’s think of them that they completely lose it when they are criticized or embarrassed by someone.

You were doing so very well there for a while, being the teen idol that was encouraging girls to be themselves and refuse to care what other people think of you…and then you had to go and say something like this.

Now you are giving credence to the idea that it matters what assholes think about you. It matters so much that it should be a crime to say anything less than nice about someone.

Thanks a lot for enforcing that idea for your fans. I’m sure you’ve done them a great service.


Does It Really Matter How The Salvation Army Feels About Gay People?


New_Angel_Tree_Logo_DMGWhen I was young I used to get my parents to give me money so I could buy gifts for a child off the Salvation Army Angel Tree at the mall in my town (yes, there was only one mall where I grew up, insane right?) and then when I got older and had a job and my own money, I did the same thing.

Then something went a little screwy and became a crazy of the “liberal lesbian” kind and went on a hardcore rampage against the Salvation Army because they aren’t all sweetness and light and fluffy bunnies when it comes to how they sometimes talk about gay people.

So I stopped giving money to the Santa’s outside stores…and I stopped participating in the Angel Tree.

It wasn’t until several years later that I realized how absolutely terrible I was being.

I still don’t put money in the pot for Salvation Army, but that’s more because I want to control where my money is going when I give Christmas Charity.

That Angel Tree is an entirely different story though.

There should never be an Angel left on those trees come Christmas Eve, because no matter how you feel about the Salvation Army’s opinion on gay people, those children didn’t do anything to deserve your disdain or punishment, just because they are getting their gifts delivered by the Salvation Army on Christmas.

So no, it doesn’t really matter to me what the Salvation Army thinks of my sexuality. What matters to me are those kids.

It’s Christmas.

That’s what should matter to you too.

It’s Christmas. Please don’t be petty.