Shake It Off: Learning to Live a Life Less Controlled by Others

Picture by nosound-withoutsilence, via tumblr

Picture by nosound-withoutsilence, via tumblr

Taylor Swift and I are about the same age and, as a result, I’ve watched her and her music change as I grew up too. So maybe it’s not odd that I can look at her music and see myself in it so clearly.

Some of her early songs about haters, like Mean, were mostly about reacting to the hate and using it to motivate you. The song is really down on the singer just as much as the ‘mean’ person is.

“You have pointed out my flaws again/As if I don’t already see them/I walk with my head down/Trying to block you out ’cause I’ll never impress you.”

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Don’t Call Attention to Your Success, It’s Too Intimidating

(Another entry from DSP that’s now been removed, enjoy!)

The stupidest thing I've ever seen in a gym...and I used to work out at the Y.

The stupidest thing I’ve ever seen in a gym…and I used to work out at the Y.

Last week I listened to the radio on the way home from work and the show hosts were discussing the book that the movie Divergent is based on. The book came out in 2011 and 3 years later it has a movie coming out. As a writer of fiction I was mildly jealous and then I swept that feeling aside and said ‘dammit I’m going to finish my current novel, publish it, and get MY OWN movie deal!’

Divergent‘s success didn’t intimidate me, it inspired me to be just as successful, if not more.

Unfortunately not everyone shares that particular character trait apparently, since an entire chain of gym’s has sprung up to cater to those that can’t deal with the “intimidation” of people more fit or more motivated than them in their gym.

Which is, quite frankly, the most pathetic gym I can even imagine.

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Some Businesses Have Dress Codes and This Is Discriminatory

While I’m not the biggest fan of the language used in the Arizona SB-1062 bill that was passed in our state legislature (for one thing, why should only religious people get protection?) but the fact is that discrimination in clientele is nothing new (or wrong) for businesses.

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The Anti-Common Core Crowd Want to Take You on a Guilt Trip

Screenshot 2014-02-13 at 2.30.52 PMNo thanks, please unpack my bags and refund my ticket, I have no interest in going down that path with you.

Maybe it’s because my plaintive cries of “You are ruining my life” failed to appropriately guilt trip my parents when I was a kid and therefore I became a sociopath that stopped caring about the emotions of others.

Or maybe it’s just because blaming Common Core for a child being frustrated with a couple of math problems is so insane that it barely takes scrutiny to dismiss.

Sure, I feel terrible for the girl in the picture. I have an abundance of empathy because I was a high achieving child in my K-12 years (let’s just not discuss that college thing ‘kay?), this was long before Common Core by the way, and I remember having some very vocal and tearful breakdowns at the kitchen table over my homework, whether I was in public school, private, or home school at the time. Math was always an especially difficult subject for me (still is, I never really had a good math teacher) and I got frustrated easily. I could solve every problem but one and that one would give me a breakdown.

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It’s Always Okay For Someone to Not Like You – A Rant

I find myself at odds, once again, with another gay Republican. I wrote an article a few months ago on why I don’t make politics personal and what triggered it was an article written by Jimmy LaSalvia, recently of GOProud.

Now I find myself writing a response to something he’s said once again…and steadily getting annoyed at myself that I feel the need to continue doing so.

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“Living on minimum wage isn’t easy”…uh, no shit.

It’s so very nice to be able to just rant on this blog.

It’s very freeing.

Anyway, I saw a post tonight from someone I used to be friends with. They were talking about how they made $3 above minimum wage in their state and they still couldn’t live on that, so clearly minimum wage needs to be increased because living on minimum wage is not easy to do…or even possible according to her.

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2013 Was An Extremely Stressful Year (Maybe this year will be better than the last)

and I’m not just referring to politics here.

Though that was stressful too. I went through nearly a year (from November of last year to November of this year) where I was completely and totally unmotivated.

As Bilbo said, I felt ‘like butter scraped over too much bread.’

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