(2 of 7 from the Biblical verses “condemning” homosexuality in the documentary Fish Out Of Water.)
Genesis chapter 2 is a fairly lengthy bit of text to be quoting, so I’ll give you a link to website where you can read it in it’s entirety (in several translation of the Bible) and give you a quick walk through of what happens in this chapter.
God creates Adam, the first human, but then decides that Adam is looking a little bit lonely in that big garden. So he decides to make a “helper suitable for him”. He makes all sorts of animals, birds, beasts and fish and Adam names each and every one of them, but none of them were suitable helpers for Adam.
So God, in what I can only assume was a fit of frustration, puts Adam into a deep sleep and yanks out a rib. From it he forms the first woman, who would be named Eve after the fall. (You notice that she doesn’t get her own name until she does something bad…).
Now here is where it gets interesting, because this verse is regularly used to prove that marriage should be between a man and a woman, but this verse proves no such thing. I want to first point out that it was only logical for the first pair of humans to be able to procreate naturally, because (as I said in my previous post) they were trying to populate a planet. Also, apparently Adam was straight…so necessarily a suitable helper would be female.
So that whole “It was Adam and Eve, not Adam and Steve” argument is getting really played out guys. Why don’t you try something new.
The other thing I find interesting is the word used in the original Hebrew.
Rev. Frederick Neidner, Th.D.: The Phrase in Hebrew, the one that gets translated as “a helper fit for”, what it really says is
Dr. Amy Jill Levine: Ezer Kenegdo
Neidner: Ezer means ‘help’ and Kenegdo means ‘like unto it’, ‘corresponding to it’.
Levine: A helper like him. A helper as his mirror image.
Neidner: What it really says is there is a corresponding strength.
Levine: Somebody who mirrors back to the earthling his own humanity. Someone with whom that earthling can feel complete, can feel whole.
Neidner: It doesn’t mean servant or slave.
Levine: Helper does not mean someone who is subordinate.
Neidner: It’s most often a way to describe God.
Levine: God is our help.
Neidner: Like in the Psalms “My help comes from the Lord.” Well the word for help there is ‘Ezer’.
It seems to me that if God says it is not good for the human being to be alone, I will make that human being a helper – and it’s the human being who chooses who that helper is to be – then why, today, would we forbid gay and lesbian individuals from finding their own helper, from finding someone who completes them?
– Dr. Amy Jill Levine
Now we have to have marriage. Why marriage? Because it will cover their guilt. Now they can justify their sin, now they even would implicate god in their sin.
– Reverend David Ickes
Not unsurprisingly, Ickes has yet to grasp the concept that not everything in this world revolves around his religion or his shockingly narrow minded interpretation of Jesus life and teachings.
First of all, I feel no guilt. For what, exactly, am I supposed to feel guilt about? I don’t believe in your God, and even if I did, it’s quite obvious that many people in Christianity do not believe that being gay is a sin. Why should any of the people fighting for same sex marriage feel guilty or feel that they are committing a sin?
Second. Why marriage? Well it’s, once again, not all because of your religion. I’ve had this argument a dozen times. The Christian religion does not hold some sort of patent on marriage (or on most of the ideas that make up Christianity for that matter). My wish to be able to get married has nothing do with guilt or sin or a wish to please some religious institution who thinks I shouldn’t have sex before marriage (that ship has sailed folks…) and everything to do with legal rights and protections that are given to married couples in the United States and abroad. If I produced that legal marriage certificate if my wife (should I ever have one) was in the hospital, I would be able to get access to her and the ability to make medical decisions for her, plus dozens of other benefits.
Marriage is important for us, but they make this relationship all about sex and when you’ve been in a relationship for a while, I mean, it’s not like your having sex twice a day. It’s about our home that we have together, it’s about the family we’re building together. It’s about the fact that when one of us gets upset we’re there to support each other.
Karen Rothstein-Pineda (with wife, Aurora Pineda)
That’s one other important thing to point out.
Sex is not always the key, binding point of a marriage (in fact, I would hope it isn’t).
I would like to believe that 10 years into a relationship my partner and I would still be having sex twice a day (and who knows, we might manage it. Depends on the woman I guess.) but that isn’t what marriage is about. Marriage is about finding that one person that completes you, who’s strengths correspond to your own, who you feel love and attraction to, your Ezer Kenegdo.
Eve was Adam’s, but that doesn’t mean that in a parallel universe that Steve was Adam’s Ezer Kenegdo. The fact that one story, a story mostly about populating a planet (see all the discussion of creation and the naming of animals and such), happened to be about a man and a women does not mean that God (if he exists) would condemn a man who finds his helper in another man, or a woman who finds her helper in another woman.
If God did create this planet, then we know that clearly loved variety. Why wouldn’t he want variety in the way human’s love as well?
And as a final note.
Why is what I do in the bedroom always the first thing people think about when I talk about gay marriage? When a heterosexual couple say they are getting married I don’t think about their sex life. I think about how the unlucky idiots are probably going to feel the need to buy a house and get a mortgage and and a mini-van and start having kids immediately. What they do in their bedroom is not even remotely my business, so why does the fact that I have sex with women make what I do in my bedroom your business?