Dan Savage’s hypocrisy

(This is the first,  in what may be 2 or 3 posts on this issue. This is a general response, next I will respond to the rest of his speech, and perhaps another post to deal with some of the responses that liberals have had to the completely justified outrage that conservatives are feeling about this.)

I spent most of the day, yesterday, trying to figure out how to start this post.

I’m usually quite witty (if I do say so myself), but I’m honestly just very angry about this. Wit has deserted me in favor of mental equivalent of “HULK SMASH!”

Now let me preface this with something that I don’t talk about often.

I am not a Christian. Let’s get that out of the way so that I won’t be categorized as a “religious bigot”, “butthurt Christian”, “conservative fundie”, or any of the other terribly tolerant language that the liberal blogs have been categorizing anyone who takes issue with Savage’s language as.

Yes, that’s right, I’m personally pro-life and extremely conservative in most other ways…but I don’t believe that Jesus Christ rode into Jerusalem on a donkey, ate the last supper with the 12 apostles, or died on a cross and rose again 3 days later.

I do believe that the Bible has some good stories and some good lessons to teach, just as I believe about many religions. I believe that it shows a unique look at a society (or a religious history, for the Jewish people, if you are looking at the Old Testament) and it must be read in the context of its time, as a form of history. (Something even my mother who, unlike my father, can be a bit of a Biblical literalist, freely admitted in a conversation with me last night).

The Bible, similar to most other philosophies and religions, has some bad parts as well. The large portion of the Old Testament is history and some truly awful shit has gone down in every society/religion at some point.

Now, having said that.

What Dan Savage said in his rant (yes, that’s what I categorize it as. Lot’s of anger, no real substance) just made him a bully and destroyed his credibility as a promoter of “anti-bullying” views.

Yes, calling a holy book, or part of it’s contents, “bullshit” is sometimes accurate (I often say similar words about things that about the Q’ran) however, saying the things he said in a pre-planned speech, to a group of high school students, was bullying. This wasn’t said in the heat of the moment, when he was angry at someone coming after him personally, this was pre-meditated and there is no way he did not know that many students and teachers in that crowd would be Christians. That would be a statistical improbability.

Then, of course, he took it a step further and called those who did the mature and walked out (rather than I would have done, even as a non-Christian, which would have been stand up and take him to task…or possibly pop him in the mouth…depending on my mood) “pansy assed”. Which, unless I’m wrong, is a pejorative used to refer to effeminate gay men.

Oh the irony inherent in a man who hates the bullying of gay people, using a gay slur to insult others.

Maybe he should have just called them faggots and gotten it over with.

I have an intense problem with hypocrisy. It is the one thing that will automatically make me lose all respect for you.

I may not like the views of certain groups (PETA, liberals in general, the Taliban, etc) but if you can remain consistent in your views and actions, I can at least respect that you know your own mind…even if I can’t stand the way your mind works.

It is the hypocrisy of Dan Savage’s views that kills me.

You cannot truly know yourself or your beliefs if you believe that bullying of one group is wrong, but bullying of some other group is fine…because you don’t like them.

You can’t be believed or respected if you say “It Gets Better” from one side of your mouth, while the other side says that you wish an entire political group was “just fucking dead”.*

You can’t demand respect for gay people, while using gay slurs to categorize those that you don”t like.

You can’t demand change and respect from people, when your actions against those who disagree with you is to make up vile uses for their name.

Not only has he shown his hypocrisy, but Savage has once again shown his sheer lack of intelligence (Yes, I think you are unintelligent if you can’t hold consistent beliefs, it isn’t hard to do) and his immaturity.

Is this really the person the gay community wants to represent the great future that is in store for young GLBT people?

How can life “get better” if the role model for a better life is so filled with anger, so bitter and hurtful to others?

You can’t fight fire with fire Mr. Savage. Perhaps it was your intent to live up to your name, but you are doing a great disservice to those you claim to be trying to help.

As Perez Hilton said** “Can’t we just be good and kind to each other? Isn’t faith in love and honesty and kindness all any of us really need?”

That is what will get our world where it needs to be, not divisive language and anger towards anyone who doesn’t fall in line with your ideal.


*As a gay conservative/Republican I would like to know what that means for me. Should I just die to make Savage happy? Or does life get better for me too, since I’m gay?

**Yes, I was shocked that he was one of the people to speak out about this.

Meeting Sheriff Joe

My day could not possibly get any better.


(okay, I’m a crazy political fangirl. Getting my picture taken with a political figure is cooler than meeting an actor in my book.)

I had the good fortune to be able to attend a meeting of the ASU College Republicans this afternoon and Maricopa county Sheriff, Joe Arpaio, was the guest speaker.

He is nothing like the papers describe him, and he had more than a few comments on journalistic bias and the press in general.

He is a very funny, personable man, with an extremely “no non-sense” point of view and an awesome tie pin.

He joked a lot, took some (extremely polite) jabs at democrats, and refused to comment on “operation fast and furious” because he doesn’t like to talk badly about other law enforcement agencies.

He cares a lot about his deputies and their families and about his duty as Sheriff, to the people if his county and to the laws of our country and state.

I was amazed to hear how many years he has worked in law enforcement and how diverse his background is. He’s worked in numerous countries and spent many years protecting the Texas/Mexico border.

If I hadn’t been planning to vote for him already, I would be now.

It was a great honor to meet him and I hope that I will get to hear him speak again.

Merry Christmas!

I say Merry Christmas.

I don’t do it to offend people.

You are perfectly welcome to say Happy Chanukah, Happy Holidays, Happy Kwanzah, Merry Festivus, Happy Wintereenmas, or Happy Winter Solstice depending on your religion, political leanings, etc.

I say Merry Christmas for two very simple reasons.

The first being obviously that I was raised celebrating Christmas and I have an impressive number of happy memories and feelings from all those years of family Christmases. I put up a Christmas tree, I give Christmas presents, I put up Christmas lights and Christmas decorations. I’m fully aware of the pagan background of many of these traditions and I accept them. However they are part of what I call ‘Christmas’. That’s my family tradition. I don’t see Christmas as some sort of political piece in a power struggle between Christians and Atheists, I just see it as a time for my family to come together and be happy. I get to buy presents for people and see their face when they open it.

I love Christmas.

I know, I’ve already said that, but it will probably get repeated several more times between now and December 25th, so you might as well get used to it.

The second reason is one that I know a couple of my readers will disagree with. They know who they are.

Have you ever had someone of a different faith tell you that are going to pray for you? Not in that condescending way where they are clearly insulting you as they say it (i.e. ‘I will pray that you stop being an idiot, come to your senses and become a Christian’ or ‘I will pray for you to stop sinning and become straight instead of gay’). I’m talking about the sort of prayer where someone is trying to bring you goodwill and happiness in the best way they know how. The kind of prayer that someone makes when they find out you are sick and they want you get better, or when you’ve lost your job and they want you to find a new one. It doesn’t matter if you don’t believe in their religions, they believe it and that’s what matters. “It’s the thought that counts” as they say.

I’ll never get upset with someone who is only trying to bring a little good will into my life.

That’s how I feel about wishing people Merry Christmas at this time of year. It’s also how I feel when someone wishes me Happy Chanukah or any of the others I mentioned.


Because when I say ‘Merry Christmas’ I’m wishing that they will have good fortune, a happy family get together, good food, good presents, and everything else that I associate with Christmas. I’m not telling them how to live their lives, what god to worship, or how they should celebrate. I’m just wishing them what I would want them to wish me, even if they would phrase it differently.

So yes, I say Merry Christmas.

And if you have a problem with that, I hope Santa leaves nothing but coal in your stocking because you, sir or ma’am, have no Christmas/Chanuka/Kwanzaa/Festivus/Wintereenmas/Solstice spirit.


Thanks to Rechabite for inspiring me to write this post with his own post on why he says Merry Christmas.

WTF! : Homeless Lady with 15 Kids (Via The Roycraft Report)

December 1, 2011 – This story needs no introduction or lengthy comment. Just watch, listen and try to keep your blood pressure under control. Here my friends is what Obama loves about his America.

via WTF! : Homeless Lady with 15 Kids.

Here is a running commentary of my thoughts as I watched this ten and half minute video.

Wait…she wants help from the system…the system she is blaming for her problems…her problems that spring from an inability to use common sense and not continue popping out babies when she has no way to support them?

Yeah, she doesn’t deserve to be a mother. Love isn’t the only thing you need to raise a kid and obviously she doesn’t love them much anyway, not if she is okay with making them someone else’s responsibility and pretending that she has no part in causing this problem and no responsibility to change her ways or take care of them herself.

This makes me sick.

“Somebody needs to pay for all my children…someone needs to be held accountable.”

How about you hold yourself accountable you stupid cow?

Sorry, sorry, I usually wouldn’t resort to insults like that, but…is there really any other way to address this woman?

Why would someone like this, with, apparently, no income and no way to support her children, keep popping out babies?

Oh right, they are all a “gift from god”.

“She was doing fine on her own.”

Right, sure. You know, the state wasn’t paying for her rent so that she could get by. Nope, she was doing it all herself.

That’s about as ridiculous as saying that President Obama “planned and executed” the attack on Osama Bin Laden all by himself.

Luckily the kids don’t look to be heading back into this home (since she doesn’t have one) anytime soon. Whether they are in foster care or with her, they are going to be supported by the tax payer’s money. At least in another home they might be able to grow up learning to take responsibility for themselves and not expecting a free ride through life, like their mother obviously feels she deserves.

I’m complaining about Glee again. So what else is new?

Hey guys. I’m taking a break from working on finals. I’ve been told that I’ve been missed and I’ve been wanting to write this post for a while.

There are two versions of the song ‘America’ from West Side Story. The version from the 1957 Broadway musical and the version from the 1961 movie. Now, call me a snob if you like, but there hasn’t been a single movie version of a musical that I haven’t considered sub par after seeing (or even just hearing) the stage version.

Now there are always minor changes between stage versions and movie versions. Such as the Christmas Bells songs that were left out of the RENT film. Songs get left out, poor casting choices are made, plots get updated. I can deal with that, even if I end up preferring the Broadway version over the movie one. However when the changes to the music change the entire meaning of the song….well, I can’t put up with that for a second.

Especially not when it comes to this particular song, because the change in the message is far to awful to allow Glee to get away with it and not call them on it.

So I’ll let it out for you in case you don’t know what Murphy and his writer’s did.

Here is the 1957 lyrics.

Puerto Rico,
You lovely island . . .
Island of tropical breezes.
Always the pineapples growing,
Always the coffee blossoms blowing . . .

Puerto Rico . . .
You ugly island . . .
Island of tropic diseases.
Always the hurricanes blowing,
Always the population growing . . .
And the money owing,
And the babies crying,
And the bullets flying.
I like the island Manhattan.
Smoke on your pipe and put that in!

I like to be in America!
O.K. by me in America!
Ev’rything free in America
For a small fee in America!

I like the city of San Juan.

I know a boat you can get on.

Hundreds of flowers in full bloom.

Hundreds of people in each room!

Automobile in America,
Chromium steel in America,
Wire-spoke wheel in America,
Very big deal in America!

I’ll drive a Buick through San Juan.

If there’s a road you can drive on.

I’ll give my cousins a free ride.

How you get all of them inside?

Immigrant goes to America,
Many hellos in America;
Nobody knows in America
Puerto Rico’s in America!

I’ll bring a T.V. to San Juan.

If there a current to turn on!

I’ll give them new washing machine.

What have they got there to keep clean?

I like the shores of America!
Comfort is yours in America!
Knobs on the doors in America,
Wall-to-wall floors in America!

When I will go back to San Juan.

When you will shut up and get gone?

Everyone there will give big cheer!

Everyone there will have moved here!

This version of the song takes place between Rosalia and Anita. Anita loves living in the United States, Rosalie waxes nostalgic for Puerto Rico. It’s a simple conversation, easy to understand. Nothing even inherently racist about the content, just a disagreement between two immigrants with a different opinion of what country they want to live in.

Here’s the version from 1961.

ANITA (spoken)
Oh no! That is not true!

Puerto Rico
My heart’s devotion
Let it sink back in the ocean!
Always the hurricanes blowing
Always the population growing
And the money owing
And the sunlight streaming
And the natives steaming
I like the island Manhattan

CONSUELO (spoken)
I know you do!

ANITA (sung)
Smoke on your pipe and put that in!

I like to be in America
OK by me in America
Everything free in America

For a small fee in America

Buying on credit is so nice

One look at us and they charge twice

I’ll have my own washing machine

What will you have, though, to keep clean?

Skyscrapers bloom in America

Cadillacs zoom in America

Industry boom in America

Twelve in a room in America

Lots of new housing with more space

Lots of doors slamming in our face

I’ll get a terrace apartment

Better get rid of your accent…

Life can be bright in America

If you can fight in America

Life is alright in America

If you’re all white in America

Here you are free and you have pride

Long as you stay on your own side

Free to be anything you choose

Free to wait tables and shine shoes

Everywhere grime in America
Organised crime in America
Terrible time in America

You forget I’m in America!

I think I go back to San Juan

I know a boat you can get on! Bye bye!

Everyone there will give big cheer!

Everyone there will have moved here!

The lyrics, you may care to notice, are very different from the original Broadway lyrics. However, it is still a story of Puerto Rican immigrants disagreeing about whether America or Puerto Rico are better places to live. The women in this case believe that America is a great place where you can live free, become anything you want, accomplish anything, have a big house, and buy on credit.

The men don’t like it in America. They feel discriminated against, feel that their skin color and accent put them at a disadvantage and that they will never have the same opportunities as white Americans.

During that time period that was an assumption that would could understand. It was the 60s, a time when the fight for civil rights for African Americans was just getting under way. However you can still see that not everyone in a minority felt they had no chances. Some were more enthusiastic and hopeful about their position in society, even if not all were.

Here’s the song from the episode of Glee. Watch it carefully.

So what is the message of this version?

Oh right, I know.

America is OH SO RACIST!

The white characters (The Jets) sing the parts that are telling the Puerto Ricans that their accents and skin color will block them from having opportunity in America.

Ryan Murphy and his crew have been politicizing Glee more and more this season. From this little foray into using a popular musical to tell the world the whites don’t like immigrants (and this is clearly what this is, don’t deny it. Why else would they have changed who sang the different parts?) to Will Schuester glitter bombing (and we all know how I feel about Glitter bombing) Sue Sylvester near the beginning of this season…I honestly don’t know if I’m going to continue watching the show at this point.

I’m simply disgusted with this. It’s a blatant attempt to influence the viewers, most of whom are not even of voting age, to think a certain way. When it comes to spreading a message that bullying is wrong (and I don’t feel they do that effectively either) I’m fine with that, but when it comes to a blatantly biased and, more importantly, false political view…Murphy, I’m ashamed of you.

What real conservatives care about… (via The Conservative New Ager)

So this stupid ad campaign for a clothing company I’ve never heard of has world leaders who by all rights should be at each other’s throats (because in almost all of them there is at least one person who makes the Who’s Who of World Most Evil Tyrants). The stupid statement on all of these is the non-word “Unhate.” Not anything as usual as maybe “Depose tyrants” or “Stand up to evil” or maybe even “Evil must be opposed”…no Unhate. That’s right you should be deeply offended and disgusted by the numerous crimes against humanity that this lot has racked up—it’s wrong to not have revulsion at the sight of butchers like Mahmoud Abbas, Hu Jintao, Kim Jung Il, Hugo Chavez and the like.

via What real conservatives care about….

Frankly, as a gay conservative this worries me.

A link to an article at Dirty Sex & Politics, Conservative AND Gay, Oh the Horror!!!. (Blog definitely NSFW and 18+ in general, though this post should be safe-ish)

It’s rare that I have ever experienced any negative attention because of being a lesbian. Admittedly I don’t march in pride parades, I don’t wear rainbows or pink triangles (though with the number of skeezy guys that hit on me on public transit, I may start…), and I’m not big on major public displays of affection when dating. That, no doubt, has an effect on how I’m treated in day to day life…or maybe not. Maybe everyone would treat me exactly the same if I made it completely obvious that I was a lesbian.

I will tell you that the reaction I get when I tell people I’m conservative or simply identify with a conservative idea or make a conservative comment about politics has felt a lot like the reaction the media portrays that gay people get when coming out. So I guess I know how the rest of the gay community feels…and so does Taylor Garrett, the gay conservative that DS&P talks about in that blog post.

Why is it that I fear violence to my person more because I’m a conservative than I do because I’m gay? In a perfect world I shouldn’t have to fear violence for either, but the media tells me that I should expect it for the latter and not for the former. So why does my common sense tell me the opposite? This isn’t the first, or even the second, time I’ve written about this, but it’s worse actually reading about another gay conservative like myself being attacked for not falling in line.